grindr

In the future, I don’t want to be someone’s experiment. But this is not to say that I discourage people to experiment with queerness; rather, I think it’s necessary to explore one’s sexuality and I encourage more people to learn about themselves.

Body image issues run rampant in queer men because, unlike their straight male counterparts, queer men experience the male gaze with a new level of intensity — they are both the subjects and the observers.

After a lifetime of snootily spurning Tinder and the like, I decided to get over myself and see what all the fuss was about.

I realize now how essential access to LGBTQ+-centered spaces — online or in person — is to queer and questioning youth. Online communities provide us with the education, support and affirmation the rest of the world does not offer us.

And so I postulate perhaps there is a day dreaded by singles more than Valentine’s Day. And that is June 23, National Kissing Day.

In spite of much of the well-founded and necessary discourse surrounding the relationship between enthusiastic consent and inebriation, I often find that I have much more difficulty saying “no” when I’m sober.