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MARCH 17, 2023

From the flurry of midterms and the hours dedicated to studying whizzing by to the drizzling rain that resembles many of our tears, the overall aura of Berkeley has been dimmed from what once was a golden yellow to a bleak gray. We feel this in our waning moods, our buzzing headaches and the metaphorical vapor of our exhaustion consuming the air. Maybe all we need is a little pick-me-up — whether that be metaphorically or literally. So, here are some questions to ask yourself, your loved ones or maybe even the students who appear on the verge of tears during lecture. 

Questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is more beneficial to me and my well-being at this moment? Doing more work, doing some self-care or spending some quality time with friends? 
  2. Does this grade define me? (Hint: The answer is no, it doesn’t.)
  3. What are some hobbies that I miss doing?
  4. Am I spending enough time doing the things that I love and enjoy? 
  5. Who do I want to spend my time and energy with? 
  6. When I look back on this moment years from now, what will I regret doing? Is there anything I will regret not doing?
  7. What do I want out of my college experience? How can I get there?
  8. Am I prioritizing myself over school or other various external factors? 
  9. Am I staying true to myself and my values?
  10. What are some habits I can change to improve my mood and overall well-being? 

Questions to ask your loved ones:

  1. What is something I can do to help you through this? What is something we can do to get through this together? 
  2. Do you want to do something (can be getting coffee, watching a movie, etc.) fun together?
  3. When can we schedule a time to destress?
  4. Is there anything you would like to share with me or get off your chest?
  5. How can I make you feel more included and comfortable in a shared space?
  6. How often would you like me to check in on you, or call or text?
  7. Are there any little things I can change to help you feel more comfortable around me?
  8. Do you need more space? Do you need less space? What are some boundaries we can set? 
  9. What are you physically, mentally and emotionally capable of doing right now? (Hint: Whatever the response may be is what you should take conscious note of and be more mindful of in your future interactions!)
  10. How can I show you that I value you and our friendship/relationship? 

So, this is your sign to check in on yourself and your loved ones. Take it or leave it. 

Contact Aimee Han at 


MARCH 17, 2023